TESTIMONIALS     

FROM  LONGVIEW WA: I didn't know that what happened to me as a little girl could have affected me as a young lady about to say yes to a wonderful young man who treated me so very special.  I was  so fearful of making a commitment because I was afraid of becoming intimate with any man - ever!  My experience with a young boy who babysat with me as a seven year old girl, had poisoned my picture of anything sexual.  Pam, my Life Coach at Dayspring, has helped me in my healing journey realize I can embrace the woman that God disigned me to be and not fear the gift of marriage.      

DAYSPRING'S APPROACH TO SEXUAL ABUSE HEALING:


​​​STAGE ONE RECOVERY:  LEARNING THAT YOU WERE NOT TO BLAME, THAT GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU AND EMBRACING THAT PLAN!

  • Find a "safe place" that can guide you through your personal healing journey to make peace with your past and move from victim to victor.
  • Participate in a program that will educate you, give support and accountability through group process and provide individual 1-on-1 sessions.  
  • Acknowledge the offense, grieve the loss, express your hurt and anger, forgive (when you can) and then release your heavy load.
  • Learn healthy Boundaries, deal with your own unhealthy habits of Codependency and people pleasing.  
  • At Dayspring, the support and accountability (tough love) of our program helps to shorten the time-line to accomplish  stage one.

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STAGE TWO RECOVERY:  LEARNING HOW TO "LIVE & LOVE IN RELATIONSHIPS"

  • Most people do not know that there is a second stage in recovery and that only by accomplishing stage two can we continue to remain healthy.

  • Unfortunately,  many couples today are living in an "emotional divorce" / "intimacy disorder".  This happens when an individual or a couple

          do not move on  to stage two of their process to learn and practice the vibrant, productive life God has planned for them.  Jeremiah 29:11

  • STAGE TWO brings you to a level of trust, vulnerability, mutuality and surrender that is God's design - whether married or single. 
  • It is not  necessary to remain in a formal recovery program forever, but is necessary to build a system of support and accountability that will

          keep you practicing the tools that will sustain healthy relationships.  We teach and model the Stage Two concept at Dayspring.  

 STAGE ONE:  Internal changes 

  • Personality begins to change as a result of the intoxicating experience.
  • Process continues until the very personality of the individual changes to become an ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY.
  • ​This is the stage of MENTAL PREOCCUPATION.

DAYSPRING'S APPROACH TO SEXUAL ADDICTION HEALING: 

​​​STAGE ONE RECOVERY:  GETTING "SOBER"  - STOPPING THE BEHAVIOR​Is to make peace with God and self first, then with others - through confession, repentance and amends.  This means going the other way.   

  • It is imperative to cease "using" - we call this "sobriety" or "getting sober".
  • All addiction is about "Mood Altering" - when we "use" and become attached to and dependent upon a person, thing, behavior or chemical. 
  • At Dayspring, the support and accountability (tough love) of our program helps to shorten the time-line to accomplish stage one.. .


STAGE TWO RECOVERY:  LEARNING HOW TO "LIVE & LOVE IN RELATIONSHIPS"

  • Most people do not know that there is a second stage in recovery and that only by accomplishing stage two can we remain sober (healthy).

  • Today, many couples are living in an "emotional divorce" / "intimacy disorder".  This happens when an individual or a couple do not move on  

          to stage two of their process to learn and practice the vibrant / productive marriage God has planned for them. Jerehmiah 29:11

  • STAGE TWO can bring you to a level of trust, vulnerability, mutuality and surrender in relationships - whether married or single. 
  • While it is not  necessary to remain in a formal recovery program for the rest of one's life, it is necessary to build a system of support and accountability that will keep you practicing the tools that will sustain healthy relationships.  This is  part of the recovery process that we teach and model at Dayspring.  

  • Call us now if you are ready to change your life, your marriage and other significant relationships! 

FROM VANCOUVER, WA.    I found myself at the point of no hope of ever being able to stop my acting out sexually.  I feared losing my wife and my children.  A friend brought me to a "Guest Night" at Dayspring and that was the first time I had ever felt hope that I really could change.  I thank God that today I have my wife and my children back in my life!  It's been a lot of work, but there is no  question about the value i have received at Dayspring!  


FROM PORTLAND, OR. I was a Pastor and was becoming suicidal because I hated what I was doing, but I didn't know where to go for help.  I heard Al & Pam on a Christian radio program and went to see Al.  His response to me was, "If you make a commitment today to do your recovery work, I believe you can heal and God will redeem this situation.  He also spoke truth to me and said, "If you do not make that commitment you must resign your position - now!"  I am eternally grateful for that kind of Godly "tough love".  Today, I am in ministry and my marriage and family have​ been restored.  Dayspring is truly a grace-ful place!​

SEXUAL ADDICTION        

SEXUAL ABUSE

Dayspring has been a leader in this field since the  

early nineties, creating a process that has helped

thousands find healing from the trauma of sexual

abuse and  the bondage of sexual addition.


We look at both sexual addiction and sexual abuse  as woundings that will destroy

marriages and families - if not healed.

Now is your time to heal!


SEXUAL RECOVERY

Can I ever trust

him again?

I think I've already lost her!

LEVEL THREE: 

  • Incest

  • Child molestation 
  • Rape (date, spouse, stranger)
  • Authority Rape
  • ​​​Seduction of others into prostitution 
  • Note:  These behaviors will put you in prison for a long time!

LEVEL ONE: 

  • Lust (sexually charged desire)
  • Objectification & sexualization
  • Compulsive masturbation
  • ​Pornography use (soft porn)​
  • Sexual fantasy 
  • ​Note:  Now is the time to seek help!
  • Most men (and many women) struggle with two or more of these behaviors

STAGE THREE:  Life breakdown stage

  • ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY is in total control - can't get enough of the "drug".

  • No attempt to make sense of his/her behavior.

  • Feels the whole world has turned against him/her.

  • Addict begins to lose his/her effectiveness - in work, finance & relationships.

  • Suicidal thoughts common - caused by depression, anger, rage, guilt, shame, loneliness and hopelessness.

FROM SALEM, OR.  I came into the program not sure I would be accepted as a woman who struggled with a sexual addiction problem.  Though I had a lot of fear, It has turned out to be a life-saving experience for me.  I have grown to love myself and I have found a much deeper relationship with God.   I am now ready and waiting for God to bring a healthy romantic relationship into my life! The combination of the Thursday night Lecture and group  plus my weekly Coaching  session has worked great!

WHAT IT IS:

  • An addiction is an unhealthy attachment to, or relationship with a mood altering substance, behavior or person.
  • Like all addictions, it has a start, it grows as the habit becomes more prolific - until the individual cannot stop the behavior on his/her own.  

STEPS TO START YOU SEXUAL ABUSE RECOVERY JOURNEY AT DAYSPRING:

  • ​Call or email us now to schedule an "Intake Interview". Take charge of your life!  Go for freedom!  
  • At the Intake Interview you will learn about the program and we will outline a plan that will help you accomplish your healing. 
  • Click on our PROGRAMS page for info on our three-part program of Education, Groups and Professional Life Coaching.​
  • You deserve to find freedom from the bondage of shame, fear, anger, hurt and other issues caused by abuse.


WHAT IT IS: 

  • Sexual abuse is a travesty that happens to one in every three females in our country and one in every four males - usually by the age of 12.
  • It is a SIN that has been going on for thousands of years.  It is wrong and there are no valid reasons or excuses to minimize the long-term destruction caused by this evil treatment of our most precious resources - our children.   

  • It is one of the primary causes of PTSD in our world today.
  • It is against the law and there are severe consequences.

  • Sexual Abuse is one of six abuse categories listed in Oregon State statutes:  Physical, Mental, Sexual, Neglect, Threatened harm, Buying/selling children.

  • 98% of perpetrators of sexual abuse are known by their victim (friend or family).
  • 20% of all American families are involved in some form of child abuse and

         1 in 10 families have incestuos abuse happening

  • 90-95% of all sexual abuse cases go unreported to the police.
  • Every 2 minutes a child and a woman is raped or sexually assaulted

          in the US.

  • Sexual abuse is not about sex - it is about power.
  • Showing pornography to a child is a form of sexual abuse.
  • ​Not protecting a child from seeing pornography is the abuse of neglect.

STAGE TWO:  Out of control behaviorally 

  • The addictlies when it would be easier to tell the truth.
  • The person blames others, knowing it is not true.
  • Behavior becomesritualized and they withdraw​.
  • ​The sex addict goes to strip clubs, uses prostitutes or has affairs. 
  • This is the stage of ADDICTIVE LOGIC & RITUALIZED BEHAVIOR.
  • The individual has now made a commitment to the "addict" within and is moredependent on the "addict" than his/her real self.
  • Tolerance has developed and he/sheneeds more of his/her choice of drug.

  • Spiritual deadening happens - isolating from God & others​

WARNING:  Addict will remain stuck in STAGE THREE  unless there is some form of INTERVENTION!

STEPS TO START YOU SEXUAL ADDICTION  RECOVERY JOURNEY AT DAYSPRING:

  • ​Call or email us now for an "Intake Interview".  Do not procrastinate!  Take charge of your life now and go for freedom!  
  • Confess to your wife or husband the essence of your problem.  IF THIS IS NEW INFORMATION, DO NOT GO INTO LOTS OF DETAIL AT THIS POINT! 
  • At the Intake Interview you will learn about the program and we will outline a plan that will help you accomplish your healing. 
  • Click on our PROGRAMS page for info on our three-part program of Education, Groups and Professional Purity Coaching.​
  • Once again, JUST DO IT!  DO NOT PUT IT OFF.

 TESTIMONIALS     

LEVEL TWO: 

  • Obsessive lust & fantasy

  • Pornography (hard core porn)

  • Phone sex, paying for porn (interactive)

  • Internet sex, paying for porn (interactive)

  • **Vouyerism (strip clubs, hidden cameras, etc.)

  • **Exhibitionism (strip clubs, exposing oneself)

  • **Prostitution (using or providing sex for pay)

  • Affairs - (sex with a consenting partner)

  • Addicted sex in marriage - yes, this happens

  • **Some of these can land you in jail!

LEVELS OF SEXUAL ADDICTION:    Types of sexual acting out behaviors

RECOVERY FROM SEXUAL  WOUNDS OF ABUSE & ADDICTION      

​FROM PORTLAND, OR:  I didn't realize that I was being abused by my husband.  I just assumed I needed to be submissive and try to keep him from getting angry at me and our children.  He was very controlling and I couldn't say no to any of his demands.  I came to a point where I was so depressed I just wanted to die, but a dear friend told me about Dayspring and how it had helped both her and her husband learn some healthier ways to love each other. Today, we are healthy, happy and very, very grateful.   

THE FALLOUT:

  • Sexual abuse causes long-term damage to the victim and the family system.

  • Healing can take years and if not dealt with, it will be an ongoing cancer -  mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

  • It can  preclude the ability to have healthy sex, even in a committed marriage relationship, unless both the victim and his or her partner find healing through an appropriate recovery process.​

  • Childhood sexual abuse can remain buried for many years and be un-earthed on the couple's honeymoon or with the birth of a child.  Healing may be difficult and take significant time, but there is help, hope and healing available.  The staff at Dayspring have not only worked with many survivors, they have experienced the trauma of abuse personally - giving them the understanding and compassion to be able to come alongside those who need and desire this healing process.

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​FROM GRESHAM OR:  I was 16 years old when I ran away from home to get away from the sexual abuse by my father.  I ended up living under the Burnside bridge.  A family took me in and they  helped me get started in the Dayspring program.  I owe my very life to that special family and the staff at Dayspring for loving me enough to help me learn to love  myself.  My healing journey was hard and I sometimes wondered if I would ever be healthy enough to be in a relationship.  Today, I am married to a loving husband and have two children that have a loving and safe place - our home!