FROM LONGVIEW WA: I didn't know that what happened to me as a little girl could have affected me as a young lady about to say yes to a wonderful young man who treated me so very special. I was so fearful of making a commitment because I was afraid of becoming intimate with any man - ever! My experience with a young boy who babysat with me as a seven year old girl, had poisoned my picture of anything sexual. Pam, my Life Coach at Dayspring, has helped me in my healing journey realize I can embrace the woman that God disigned me to be and not fear the gift of marriage.
DAYSPRING'S APPROACH TO SEXUAL ABUSE HEALING:
STAGE ONE RECOVERY: LEARNING THAT YOU WERE NOT TO BLAME, THAT GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU AND EMBRACING THAT PLAN!
STAGE TWO RECOVERY: LEARNING HOW TO "LIVE & LOVE IN RELATIONSHIPS"
Most people do not know that there is a second stage in recovery and that only by accomplishing stage two can we continue to remain healthy.
do not move on to stage two of their process to learn and practice the vibrant, productive life God has planned for them. Jeremiah 29:11
It is not necessary to remain in a formal recovery program forever, but is necessary to build a system of support and accountability that will
keep you practicing the tools that will sustain healthy relationships. We teach and model the Stage Two concept at Dayspring.
STAGE ONE: Internal changes
DAYSPRING'S APPROACH TO SEXUAL ADDICTION HEALING:
STAGE ONE RECOVERY: GETTING "SOBER" - STOPPING THE BEHAVIORIs to make peace with God and self first, then with others - through confession, repentance and amends. This means going the other way.
STAGE TWO RECOVERY: LEARNING HOW TO "LIVE & LOVE IN RELATIONSHIPS"
Most people do not know that there is a second stage in recovery and that only by accomplishing stage two can we remain sober (healthy).
to stage two of their process to learn and practice the vibrant / productive marriage God has planned for them. Jerehmiah 29:11
While it is not necessary to remain in a formal recovery program for the rest of one's life, it is necessary to build a system of support and accountability that will keep you practicing the tools that will sustain healthy relationships. This is part of the recovery process that we teach and model at Dayspring.
Call us now if you are ready to change your life, your marriage and other significant relationships!
FROM VANCOUVER, WA. I found myself at the point of no hope of ever being able to stop my acting out sexually. I feared losing my wife and my children. A friend brought me to a "Guest Night" at Dayspring and that was the first time I had ever felt hope that I really could change. I thank God that today I have my wife and my children back in my life! It's been a lot of work, but there is no question about the value i have received at Dayspring!
FROM PORTLAND, OR. I was a Pastor and was becoming suicidal because I hated what I was doing, but I didn't know where to go for help. I heard Al & Pam on a Christian radio program and went to see Al. His response to me was, "If you make a commitment today to do your recovery work, I believe you can heal and God will redeem this situation. He also spoke truth to me and said, "If you do not make that commitment you must resign your position - now!" I am eternally grateful for that kind of Godly "tough love". Today, I am in ministry and my marriage and family have been restored. Dayspring is truly a grace-ful place!
Dayspring has been a leader in this field since the
early nineties, creating a process that has helped
thousands find healing from the trauma of sexual
abuse and the bondage of sexual addition.
We look at both sexual addiction and sexual abuse as woundings that will destroy
marriages and families - if not healed.
Now is your time to heal!
Can I ever trust
I think I've already lost her!
STAGE THREE: Life breakdown stage
ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY is in total control - can't get enough of the "drug".
No attempt to make sense of his/her behavior.
Feels the whole world has turned against him/her.
Addict begins to lose his/her effectiveness - in work, finance & relationships.
Suicidal thoughts common - caused by depression, anger, rage, guilt, shame, loneliness and hopelessness.
FROM SALEM, OR. I came into the program not sure I would be accepted as a woman who struggled with a sexual addiction problem. Though I had a lot of fear, It has turned out to be a life-saving experience for me. I have grown to love myself and I have found a much deeper relationship with God. I am now ready and waiting for God to bring a healthy romantic relationship into my life! The combination of the Thursday night Lecture and group plus my weekly Coaching session has worked great!
WHAT IT IS:
STEPS TO START YOU SEXUAL ABUSE RECOVERY JOURNEY AT DAYSPRING:
WHAT IT IS:
It is a SIN that has been going on for thousands of years. It is wrong and there are no valid reasons or excuses to minimize the long-term destruction caused by this evil treatment of our most precious resources - our children.
It is against the law and there are severe consequences.
Sexual Abuse is one of six abuse categories listed in Oregon State statutes: Physical, Mental, Sexual, Neglect, Threatened harm, Buying/selling children.
1 in 10 families have incestuos abuse happening
in the US.
STAGE TWO: Out of control behaviorally
Tolerance has developed and he/sheneeds more of his/her choice of drug.
Spiritual deadening happens - isolating from God & others
WARNING: Addict will remain stuck in STAGE THREE unless there is some form of INTERVENTION!
Obsessive lust & fantasy
Pornography (hard core porn)
Phone sex, paying for porn (interactive)
Internet sex, paying for porn (interactive)
**Vouyerism (strip clubs, hidden cameras, etc.)
**Exhibitionism (strip clubs, exposing oneself)
**Prostitution (using or providing sex for pay)
Affairs - (sex with a consenting partner)
Addicted sex in marriage - yes, this happens
**Some of these can land you in jail!
LEVELS OF SEXUAL ADDICTION: Types of sexual acting out behaviors
FROM PORTLAND, OR: I didn't realize that I was being abused by my husband. I just assumed I needed to be submissive and try to keep him from getting angry at me and our children. He was very controlling and I couldn't say no to any of his demands. I came to a point where I was so depressed I just wanted to die, but a dear friend told me about Dayspring and how it had helped both her and her husband learn some healthier ways to love each other. Today, we are healthy, happy and very, very grateful.
Sexual abuse causes long-term damage to the victim and the family system.
Healing can take years and if not dealt with, it will be an ongoing cancer - mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
It can preclude the ability to have healthy sex, even in a committed marriage relationship, unless both the victim and his or her partner find healing through an appropriate recovery process.
Childhood sexual abuse can remain buried for many years and be un-earthed on the couple's honeymoon or with the birth of a child. Healing may be difficult and take significant time, but there is help, hope and healing available. The staff at Dayspring have not only worked with many survivors, they have experienced the trauma of abuse personally - giving them the understanding and compassion to be able to come alongside those who need and desire this healing process.
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FROM GRESHAM OR: I was 16 years old when I ran away from home to get away from the sexual abuse by my father. I ended up living under the Burnside bridge. A family took me in and they helped me get started in the Dayspring program. I owe my very life to that special family and the staff at Dayspring for loving me enough to help me learn to love myself. My healing journey was hard and I sometimes wondered if I would ever be healthy enough to be in a relationship. Today, I am married to a loving husband and have two children that have a loving and safe place - our home!